Are you making up stories in your head about what he wants? Are you making up stories about when you will be worthy for love? Are you deciding for him?
In my sessions, women are telling stories. Stories that they have created. Stories like, “I’m not from the same socioeconomic background, I don’t think I’ll be desirable to him.” Or, “I feel like I won’t be able to attract as high of quality man because I’m a single mother…” Or, “It’s going to be much harder for me to date because I’m over (enter any age).” The list goes on.
What limiting beliefs are you carrying around with you that may be blurring your intentions? You see, we get what we expect.
This is why it’s super important to know your value and go after what you deserve.
Often times we limit ourselves because of stories we are living with inside of our heads. In many cases the stories are untrue. Before I cleared my “stories” to enable me to go after the high quality type of man I wanted, I would hold myself back in MANY ways. I’ll share one with you today.
One lie I lived by was that I was unworthy of a highly attractive man because I frequented hot-spots in Manhattan where there were successful models all around. For a time, I felt that there was no way the highly attractive men would want me when those women were present. Because of this limiting belief, I intentionally went after men who I did not find very attractive. I found myself in many relationships where I wasn’t attracted to the person!
This is just one example of how I was holding myself back by DECIDING FOR HIM.
How was I to know what “he” wanted? I did not even know him yet! Back then, I was not in-tune with my own sense of value as a woman. I see this all the time with nearly every woman I speak to in my practice. Below I’ll give you a list building exercise to help with your own sense of perceived value.
It’s hard out there.
We are facing rejection on the path to finding our one. It can beat us down and help us to create limiting stories in our minds. It can hold us back from taking risks or event trying to date at all…
If you are not allowing yourself to face rejection, you are preventing yourself from finding the person who wants to love everything about you.
Sure, we are getting rejected for a multitude of reasons. However, we have to stand tall and walk through those reasons to get to the pot of gold at the end of our rainbow… Continue to walk down your path knowing that the right one could just be behind the very next door.
It’s hard when it feels like those doors are invisible.
You can’t see them! Because of this, it can feel very discouraging, empty, or lonely sometimes. You are not alone. There are people all around who are looking for love and companionship, too. Figure out how to surround yourself with new energies. It doesn’t hurt to always strive to be the best person you can be. What can you do to become a more multifaceted woman today? What can you do to strive to become a higher quality mate for another person.
Make a list and start working on some of those things right away.
Making a list which helps you move toward improving whatever might be keeping you in a limited mindset will raise your vibration and lift your confidence almost immediately.
You don’t have to be in your perfect place to meet the right person.
You just need to be feeling good about what you have to offer!
I’d love to hear from you to see what stories you might be telling yourself and how this email helped you become more aware of those stories.
Share them in the comments.
Hugs & love,
P.S. If you want to bust through your love-blocking stories to attract your highest quality relationship, start by taking our Love Fitness Quiz: